“Bounce back from life’s challenges with greater wisdom and understanding. Empower yourself through mindfulness, improved emotional control, connectedness to others, and the ability to ride the waves of troubled times without making an already difficult situation worse.”
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No matter what you believe about yourself, or what others have told you …you are a valuable individual,Ā who has done the best you could do, based on your circumstances.Ā You are a valuable individual.Ā
Our survival instinctĀ drives us towardĀ a desire to be connected to others,Ā and to feel like we have the powerĀ to live our livesĀ effectively.
There is a mythĀ that says the absence of trouble or challengeĀ is the norm,Ā and if trouble or challenge is present,Ā then we have done something wrongĀ and we riskĀ becoming damaged.
YetĀ the opposite is true.Ā Challenge should beĀ expected and accepted.Ā ChallengeĀ engages our drive to surviveĀ by causing us to stretchĀ to find solutionsĀ that help us maintain connection to others,Ā as well as empowerĀ us to live our lives more effectively.
The real problem is, there is no manualĀ or set of instructions for how to deal with challenge,Ā which in turn results in our defaulting to instinct,Ā information gathered from role models (healthy or unhealthy),Ā guesswork,Ā and most dangerously,Ā reacting to a triggered emotional mind.
You CAN NOT blame yourself for not knowing the rules.Ā You CAN blame yourself for hiding your head in the sand and refusing to grow.
Resilience is the processĀ of bouncing back from challengeĀ with greater wisdom and understanding.Ā We can’t avoid challengeĀ but we can improve our ability to meet challenges head on,Ā turning them into our strengthsĀ and sources of wisdom,Ā by usingĀ a well cultivated collection ofĀ life mastery skills.
It mustĀ also be saidĀ the other side of challenge,Ā is peace.Ā BalanceĀ is always the answer.
Life Mastery SkillsĀ that serve as a shock absorber to challenge,Ā and serve to restore peaceĀ include:
Mindfulness Skills
Emotion Management Skills
People Skills
Distress Tolerance Skills
Thought Management Skills
Problem Solving and Decision Making Skills
Structure and Time Management Skills
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EveryoneĀ has within themselvesĀ the answers to their own challenges.Ā For some peopleĀ the answers are easily accessible.Ā To others…Ā the answers are locked behind a door.Ā All that is needed,Ā is the right key.Ā The key is simpleĀ yet priceless.Ā It is a collection ofĀ “Life Mastery Skills.”
Depending on our life experience,Ā some skills come naturally.Ā Others may feelĀ likeĀ walking up a downstairs escalator,Ā or worseĀ like being lostĀ in a dark forest.
The good news is,Ā there is nothing magicĀ about life mastery skills.Ā If a person chooses, they can be learnedĀ like any other skill,Ā such as riding a bike or baking a cake.
When learning anything new,Ā there are three simple steps:
1. Know it. Having a basic intellectual knowledge of the skill.
2.Ā Feel it.Ā Personalizing that intellectual knowledge, or in other words, “feel” how the skill could benefit you.
3.Ā Practice it.Ā Take the behavioral leap and practice, practice, practice.
When you address all three steps of learningĀ you create a powerful combinationĀ of thinking, feeling, and acting,Ā whichĀ looks and feels a lot likeĀ magic.
THE GOAL:
CREATE BALANCE THROUGH LIFE MASTERY SKILLS,Ā ALLOWING YOU TO HAVE MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS,Ā AND POWER OVER AN EFFECTIVE LIFE.
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