Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion ~Buddha
Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. Scott Adams
Sunday night we had a double birthday party for my son and daughter-in-law. The house was packed with family and though it was a happy gathering, chaos abounded.
Amidst the large crowd, we had three dogs in attendance, one of which was our puppy, Mr. Bingley. Bingley was in heaven, chasing the children and being the center of attention. Kids and puppies are a perfect combination.
However, several times during the evening, the little ones had to be reminded to be “soft” with our tiny 4-pound bundle of fur. It was interesting to observe that when reminded, the kids knew exactly how to adjust their behavior:
It wasn’t hard for them to change. They love Mr. Bingley and when they became aware that being rough might harm him, a transformation took place and little nurturers appeared. The chaos was replaced with a sweetness hard to describe.
In contrast, on a daily basis I hear stories of people harming others with their words and actions. Some of it is intentional, but often it is not.
It’s easy to forget that human beings, despite our size, age, or level of success, may at times have only the emotional strength of a 4-pound puppy.
Unfortunately we don’t have super powers to look inside a person’s heart. Sometimes it’s easy to see when others are hurting but all too often people are wearing masks so that they don’t appear vulnerable.
We would be wise to remind ourselves often to be “soft.”
I am not a golfer, but I have friends who are passionate about the sport. I used to think golfing was about how “hard” you hit the ball.
My friends explained that it’s not how “hard” you hit the ball, but the arc of your swing and where on the ball your club makes contact. They said that a fraction of an inch makes all the difference in how far and where your ball will land.
In other words, a tiny adjustment makes all the difference.
Using that same analogy, consider the power of a tiny adjustment to your words and deeds, and how it could ease a soul.
Small acts of kindness might include…
A genuine smile
A gesture like a “thumbs up”
A text to say “I’m thinking of you”
A plate of cookies or loaf of bread
A pat on the back or touch on the arm
Sitting next to someone who is alone
All of these are little adjustments. They don’t require physical strength or great effort. It’s a matter of arc or intention, and where you hit the ball that makes all the difference. Softness is the strength that is required.
Such little effort can be transformative on a very large scale.
How have you been touched by little kindnesses in your life? I’d love to hear your experiences.
That’s all for now my friends.
May you always find your cup half full 🙂
Love to all,
Every now and then I see something so exciting to me, I just have to share it. I’m always amazed with Ted Talks but this one, already seen by 4,000,000 people really grabbed me.
Talk about “keeping it real,” Brene Brown shares her research on shame and vulnerability and explains that those two difficult emotions are the foundation of what she calls a “wholehearted life,” and the birthplace of connectedness and innovation.
Trust me, I know everyone is busy but take 20 minutes to watch this. I promise you will thank me.
What makes you feel vulnerable, and can you see that if we choose to live a wholehearted life we must keep walking, even if we’re afraid? Most important things in life require taking a risk. When have you taken a risk to be your authentic self, and then been grateful that you did? Press the comment button and share your experiences. We’re all in this together and benefit from hearing from those who have had the courage to be themselves. It rubs off you know.
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Take care my friends. Until next time…
Shine on 🙂